Divorce happened to Me is a book to assist and encourage divorced believers in their physical and spiritual recovery. It has been said that the local church should be a hospital to the hurting. If that is true, then Divorce happened to Me would be the bandages and antiseptic used to treat the wounds of those hurting from divorce.
The inspiration of the book is certainly not a difficult mystery to solve. I was burdened to write this book because, as the title says, divorce happened to me. I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Savior when I was seven years old, and then surrendered to his calling on my life to enter into full time Christian service when I was seventeen. With that being said it is safe to say that I have been in church all my life. I had been saved just over twenty years when my wife left me. As my marriage ended I knew there would be a substantial amount of pain involved with the end of the relationship, but what I wasn’t prepared for was the overwhelming disregard of my pain among God’s people. I was a church kid. I had been faithful. I was never the wild child that the parishioners dreaded to see walking through the church doors. I also thought I was a good friend and colleague to my fellow preachers and pastor friends that I’d served with throughout my life. Yet, the phone never rang, cards never came, and even to this day some of them have never lifted a finger to communicate. With the exception of my immediate family and a very few faithful friends, I was forced to recover from my divorce alone.
As months passed and I began to heal, I began to pray and ask the Lord to help me do something to help and encourage other divorced Christians so they don’t have to walk this lonely road alone. As I prayed, the Lord laid upon my heart to pen down this book and to share some of the things that He used to help me in my recovery. Divorce Happened To Me is not a book with twelve steps to getting over your divorce.Divorce happened to Me is not a book with twelve steps to getting over your divorce. Each situation and the circumstances surrounding divorce are different, and thus the healing process and time table is different as well. The purpose of the book is to help you understand what you’re going through, how to deal with certain emotions and feelings, and to encourage you that God still loves you and wants you to serve in His great army. Much of the book follows the life and sufferings of the Old Testament character Job, and makes real life applications to help in your recovery from divorce. An intimate relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ is the only true answer to divorce recovery, and you’ll discover that truth in every chapter. If you’re suffering from divorce or know someone going through a divorce, I encourage you to pick up a copy of the book and allow God to reveal his great love and power to heal your hurt!